The past week, I’ve been over-thinking every little detail of my life more so than usual, which I didn’t even realize was possible. I tend to over-think things a lot, and while thinking about things before you act or react is a good thing to do, over-thinking can be damaging to your mental health.
In my eating disorder, I would over-think about food, calories, exercise, my body, and so on. While there are times when this can still be the case, I have found coping mechanisms to help me redirect my over-thinking from a negative route to a positive one, or at least a more neutral one.
Although I have been able to renounce some of those thoughts on a more regular basis, I unfortunately still struggle to do so with thoughts relating to my self-worth and abilities. There are times when something happens and I can’t help but feel like it has to do with who I am as a person.
The problem with over-thinking is that it tends to happen in extremes. Even when I was little, if someone was late to pick me up, I would think the worst had happened. I’ve grown out of that, but my point is that “over-thinking” is not just thinking over and over again that someone didn’t reply to your message; it’s more along the lines of believing that they definitely didn’t reply to that message because they don’t like me and I’m annoying. Despite there being no evidence to prove this is remotely true, and there maybe even being evidence against this thought, the over-thinking still runs rampant.
Knowing that over-thinking can make me feel so down on myself, it makes me sad to think that other people experience the same thing. I am personally working towards making positive statements in my mind and affirming my self-worth, in order to actively try and change my self-perception. I encourage everyone else to do the same! Feeling bad about yourself or giving other people the power to make you feel bad about yourself is never productive. It’s a horrible feeling and it just causes you to stress and worry excessively and you will most likely end up in a nonstop cycle of negative self-perception.
Whenever you find yourself over-thinking a situation, try and do something to distract yourself. Maybe try watching a funny TV show, texting a friend, striking up a conversation with someone, or reading a book. These things will allow you to focus your mind on something other than your own thoughts, even if it’s just for a little while. Hopefully, this will deter, if not eliminate, your over-thinking and negative thoughts. It’s also important when you have these thoughts, to remind yourself that you are fabulous just the way you are right now. If someone doesn’t realize the beauty that is you, then they are not worth your time. If a situation makes you uncomfortable to the extent that it causes you distress, or causes you to act like someone you aren’t, then it’s not worth it. Positive self-talk may feel stupid, but it’s also very important. So, don’t be afraid to remind yourself you’re good at something, that you’re a good person, that you can do something…
The fact is: you are a bad ass, and you can do this!